Setting And Achieving Goals
Can Work For YOU Without The Struggle
If you find setting and achieving goals a real struggle you'll love these simple tips and tricks.
There are new year resolutions made with anticipation and excitement every year, but most people fail in reaching goals, often within the first couple of months.
Why is that?
Well, whether you like it or not
your emotions and past experiences
play a huge role. We all experience a multitude of negative experiences throughout our life and our subconscious mind remembers every negative experience which it judges, categories and files.
The more negative experiences you have, the bigger the file and the more “proof” it has of your shortcomings and inadequacies. It's these experiences that determine where it is you really belong in the world.
It's also what forms your identity so it’s not surprising that when you attempt any form of goal-setting that requires stepping out of your comfort zone that your internal critic steps up and says:
You’re going to do what? Are you kidding me? Let me remind you about ….. And let’s not forget …. And blah, blah, blah, blah, blah…
That critical little voice can drive you nuts and stop you dead in your tracks when it comes to setting and reaching goals, but there is a solution.
Steps To Setting And Achieving Goals
Setting smart goals (Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic, Timely) and writing them down is important BUT most people then focus all their attention and energy on what they have to give up and how hard reaching goals will be.
The feeling is heavy and too hard.
But by focusing on the end result and how you will feel once you've achieved your goal -- well, that feels lighter and more exciting. It's only a slight shift in thinking but it can have profound effects.
So write your smart goals down and underneath write down your reasons and the benefits including the emotions you will feel having achieved your goal.
So if your goal is achieving a healthy balanced lifestyle and you want to reach a certain weight your reasons may be improved health and mental clarity, more energy, look good, feel happier and more confident, proud of myself and my accomplishments.
Your Goal Statement
Now put that information into a goal statement and repeat it as much as possible throughout the day, especially first thing in the morning and last thing before you go to bed at night.
An example of a goal statement might be:
“I easily and consistently maintain my ideal weight and a healthy lifestyle balance. I have abundant energy, mental clarity and a trim, toned body. I feel confident and self assured because I not only look good, I feel great. I am proud of myself and my accomplishments and I’m totally committed to maintaining my new found health, fitness and self confidence.“
Setting And Achieving Goals: Silencing Your Internal Critic
Here's where it gets interesting because when you read your goal statement out loud your internal critic is bound to show up to remind you of all your past failures.
There will probably be a little banter that goes backwards and forwards too -- "I can do that; oh no you can't" :)
So the trick is to listen to all those "yeah-buts" and write them down, along with all the negative emotions you're feeling like fear and self doubt when you think about goal-setting.
Also notice where it is showing up in your body. Are you feeling sick in the stomach or do you have any pain or tension in your body? You're sure to feel it in your breathing, so take a deep breath and assess how full it is.
Write everything down, including any limiting beliefs like "I'm not good enough" and rate how intense each one is on the 0-10 scale.
Setting And Achieving Goals Secret: Erase and Replace
apply EFT to all those negative emotions, physical symptoms and limiting beliefs
you have written down about reaching your goals until you’re at a 0 on everything
If you take the time to go through the above process, when you repeat your goal statement it should feel totally believable -- "Yeah, that's a done deal. I can do that".
So remember to repeat your goal statement at least 2-3 times each day for a minimum of 20 days.
Don't be impatient when it comes to reaching goals. Wanting and expecting immediate results when it comes to setting and achieving goals will only fuel the mixed emotions and internal conflict …
And that will only keep you stuck.
Just notice your negative thoughts and beliefs and apply EFT to them immediately.
If you do that and do it consistently, you'll be surprised at how quickly your world starts to change and your goals start to materialise.
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